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As single moms we have to do what we have to do in every aspect of our lives to generate income and have a healthy social life to sustain our mental strengths in reference to juggle bills, babies, employment, and people. All of which will exhaust even the professional organizer. Sometimes, the human body will overload or overwhelm. My experience as a single mom vary from a high of desire to be out on the town to no desire to be bothered at all. Single motherhood is a give and take commitment to empower and educate. However, I acquired the knowledge to balance my energy so that it is equal between myself and the world to prevent the feel of burnout when it is time to focus on what matters. 

Accept the reality of motherhood- the world will mold itself. Motherhood does not come with a manual! The beginning phase of motherhood will be rough. If you have love ones to navigate motherhood with you, trust me you are blessed! Join a social group, have play dates, girl's night in or out, and spa day to keep your mind in  stimulation beyond your child's age. In retrospect, I past a couple of years just my children and myself (strictly QT time between us) and my behavior showed. My children's language became my language. We would have little bouts that would cause me to mentally shrink! I have to admit, quality time at 7,8,9,10 years old was fun while transition in growth milestones continue.

I owe a lot of gratitude to my family who help me with my children as I take on the world of responsibilies. If any priority suddenly changes it will be a snow ball effect: bills past due, lack of motivation, cocoon from the world, unable to deal with difficult personalities. Get my drift? As a single mom the most important thing to stay afloat is to be positive because there are so many negatives that will out way the good. It is important to surround yourself with positive giving people and not giving as in items or money but giving such as a prayer or kind jester, people who pour into you and not take. 

Unfortunately, there are times when priority does suddenly change which is why a support system is important. Now, remember I am a woman, I can't speak for the single fathers out there but for the absent fathers the excuses are redundant. Focus on the good and over time the bad will be outweighed. As the saying goes, "Only time can heal," The word single will be just another term.         

PASSIVE INCOME IDEAS:

• Participate in paid surveys 
• Sell unwanted or too small clothes 
• Yard sales or online sells 
• Protect the least suspectable items in your pocession with insurance 

TTYL,

MommyNMeTours 💋

   

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Fruits and Veggies of Life

 While, my children are nearly at their pre-teen stages of life the gifts of motherhood are abundant. I'm blessed with the opportunity to see my children grow from foundations I have instilled in them from a small person point of view, such as: 

How to love

How to care for themselves 

How to articulate their feelings 

How to communicate 

How to get through one day to the next 

My motherhood has been quite a journey as it has required me to grow as a person. My circle of friends changed because some friends did not have children. My world became demanding. When I had children it was no longer just about me. I'll admit, at times caring for two small children at the age of 21 made me sad not because I had children, but because of who, what, when, and how. I wasn't able to run off with my friends as I once did. I wasn't able to have normal conversations over the phone without babies crying in the background. Sometimes I had to put the person on hold to quickly care for babies who depended solely on me. I remember feeling hopeless in having my children because it wasn't how I envisioned or planned. Nevertheless, I am honored and blessed to be their Mom. 

A lot of times when I discuss how unhappy I was with how I spent my twenty's, people automatically hint at, "that's your fault." Or, "you had a choice." The reality of that is harsh. Especially hearing it from a person's mouth. In my younger years I lived as if I was invincible. I had all my years ahead of me, I'm young, is what I thought to myself everyday I woke up. I'm still young, now in my thirty's, however I'm much more aware of my choices as I navigate life.     

Motherhood for me is full of rewards. I get to watch my children who started off as blabbing, drooling, goo-goo gaa bundle of joys to curious, questioning, adventurous small people. My favorite and will be most memorable moments are teaching my children how to walk, talk, catch, hold a spoon because those milestones were all part of motor gross skills; however, the developement stage to normal accuracy was a learning tool that is life satisfying. It's like planting a garden from scratch and seeing the vegetables sprout from the ground. How exciting is that! To harvest what one's time is invested in. 

Motherhood for me is like a garden! Fruits and Veggies of life.

What is your motherhood in a nutshell? 

TTYL,

MommyNMeTours 💋

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Welcome Aboard

Welcome to MommyNMeTours Blog where the blogging experience is to promote a community of mothers in network. I hope MommyNMeTours bring comfort to you (mommy) in your despair of the ever-changing world of motherhood that consist of bloopers and gains. This blog will offer short activity, passive income resources, poetry, reader's digest for children and adults, open dialog, and online sells. 

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